healthy pregnancy weight loss diet
Im not much of a "bumpdate" person. (Though Im not much of a birth story person either, and I wrote one of those.) When my favorite bloggers post pregnancy updates, I mostly just look at the pictures. I never blogged regular pregnancy updates when I was pregnant with Lucia but somehow, this time, it just seemed right - maybe even necessary - to share a little more gratuitously about this pregnancy.
A while back, I read this article that discussed the use of the term "penumbra baby" for a child that comes after loss. Ive never really felt comfortable with the more common term "rainbow baby" (not sure exactly why) and it was somehow very fulfilling to find a term that really resonated with me. Heres an excerpt from the article that explains the word an exactly why its so apt:
The word penumbra means “partially shaded area” and while I like and use the term rainbow babies, I think this one might be a better description. These babies are born in the shadow of their older siblings who died. Because I’m fascinated by words and their meanings, I find it interesting that she used the term penumbra, meaning partially shaded, and not umbra, or fully shaded. With a penumbra, some light is still coming through, which I find rather beautiful. Children born in the shadow of loss are definitely not replacement children! Unlike a rainbow, a shadow is not fleeting or illusory, but always present and always changing. When the sun rises and sets, our shadows are long, casting a deeper, darker presence over our lives. When the sun is high overhead, our shadows are barely present. No matter where you go or what you do, your shadow is with you. It changes as you change. It is unique to your shape. A shadow cannot exist without some light, even if that light is small.
When you are pregnant after a loss, the shadow of your past pregnancy will always be there. Some days you will feel its presence deeply, as if the light were dim and the shadow in front of you. Some days, you will hardly notice it. The sun will be bright overhead.
Its important to me that this pregnancy and this child are never "fully shaded", that I allow some light to come through. So Im determined to celebrate this pregnancy in whatever ways I can. I may not be taking weekly beautiful, well-lit and well-orchestrated pictures with fruits and veggies, but I have been taking grainy, poorly lit picture sporadically because I do want there to be pictures. (And we
are going to get professional maternity pictures next month.) I do want there to be memories. I want to be able to look back and say,
that was a blessed time when my child was growing within me. Ive always thought I would do a pregnancy update post at some point in this pregnancy (although probably
only one) and 28 weeks, the start of the third trimester, seems as good a time as any.
how far along: By the "official" dating: 28 weeks, 3 days; by my dating: 29 weeks, 1 day. Im totally fine with going along with the doctors date though. Lucia was 8 days "late" so a later due date just prepares me for a little longer of a wait and, more importantly, gives me an extra cushion before other people start asking "Have you had the baby yet?"
days until due date: 80
symptoms: Ive had pretty much the full gamut of "normal" pregnancy symptoms. Morning sickness, lethargy, etc. in the first trimester. Mostly feeling better during the second trimester, other than a few tough weeks around our move when I probably was just doing way too much. In the past few weeks, the third trimester symptoms have really hit - heartburn, swelling, hip and pelvic pain. I have had a few symptoms that I think are pretty unique to me though. One of the first early signs that Im pregnant is frequent headaches. Unless Im ill, the only time I ever get headaches is during the first trimester of pregnancy (its been consistent with all of my six pregnancies so far). Also, Ive developed allergies to peanuts. Nothing major, just an itchy throat when I eat them. I had this with Lucia too, only not with peanuts but with bananas and almonds (so far, those dont seem to bother me). Apparently food allergies just during pregnancy is a thing, though not particularly common.
cravings: Hmmm, I probably need to ask David about this one. Hummus. A bagel with lox. Honestly, its pretty much like my pregnancy with Lucia - I dont crave much in the realm of weird and cravings dont come out of nowhere, but if I see or hear someone talk about a food that sounds good, I cant get the thought of it out of my head. So commercials and cooking shows are my worst enemy right now. Though heartburn is severely cutting down on my appetite because no matter how good something tastes, I know it is just NOT worth the heartburn.
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| On our fifth anniversary |
comparisons: Obviously, this pregnancy is emotionally much more difficult than my very blissful, naive, and perfectly healthy pregnancy with Lucia, but its also been physically harder. Not so much so that anything is out of the ordinary, its all within the range of "normal", but its certainly a noticeable difference. Other than the first trimester morning sickness and fatigue and third trimester heartburn, I otherwise felt amazing my whole pregnancy with Lucia. This entire pregnancy Ive been tired and sluggish and just not feeling quite well. The morning sickness was worse (I think I only threw up twice with Lucia, but often a half dozen times per day this pregnancy) although both times it tapered off around 13 weeks. Heartburn has started much, much earlier this time - at around 25 weeks compared to probably 34 with Lucia. I remember that being the absolute worst part of her pregnancy and was hoping to put it off as long as possible.
Ive also just been so much more sore this time around. I never had hip or pelvic pain with my first pregnancy and its been a bit surprising (and painful!) this time around. I also never had Braxton Hicks contractions before this pregnancy, and Ive been having them since around 18 weeks. I usually dont have them too often other than when Im upset and then they are super painful and constant. Not having any BH made it really easy to tell when I was going into labor - Im worried about not being able to tell real from false labor as the due date gets closer.
I dont think having an older child to care for has affected the pregnancy all that much (other than Lucia making me melt with her really sweet, adorable bonding with baby - that is so precious). Lucia tends to nap every day and I nap with her so I still get my daily nap in. I havent been sleeping very well at night the entire pregnancy (whereas I slept like a baby until the heartburn kicked in last time), but I dont think thats related to having an older child because Lucia usually sleeps through the night. Shes old enough that Im not constantly on my feet running after her and shes pretty independent and helpful, but I am probably more active this time walking over to the school playground with her and taking her to parks and such.
Ive gained a lot less weight this pregnancy. Im sure thats due to the increase in morning sickness and early onset of heartburn more than anything else. But Im also carrying low, so maybe these differences mean its a boy? Oh, and probably the biggest difference is that this baby is extremely, extremely active. Way more than Lucia ever was. The movements and kicks are much more frequent and sometimes actually really painful which is crazy for a baby this small (and its already been happening for weeks). I can often see my stomach very noticeably moving which didnt happen very often with Lucia and not until the end. David is convinced that this means we are having an active little boy.
speaking of babys sex: No, we didnt/we dont find out if were having a boy or girl. Its just the way we like to do it. We didnt find out with Lucia and the surprise was just so exciting. And it drives other people crazy which is fun too. I will admit I was much more tempted this time to peek during the ultrasound than I was with Lucia, but I stayed strong.
Do I have any gut feelings? Boy, I guess. But I was 100% sure Lucia was a boy from my gut feeling and I have the reputation of being 100% wrong when guessing the sex of friends and family members babies so I think my gut feeling of boy means that its most likely a girl. Obviously, we really dont care if its a boy or girl and were just super excited to find out exactly who this little person is that God has sent to our family.
names? We do have a boy and a girl name picked out and most of our friends and family know them, but Im not ready to share here yet. Were having a bit of trouble with a girl middle name, so I emailed Kate at the Catholic baby naming blog, Sancta Nomina, for a name consultation and it will be published next month so at least our girls name will be out of the bag then.
Lucia is: very excited. And super, super sweet. She talks about baby all the time and asks every person she meets, "Did you know my mommy has a baby in her tummy?" Shes very excited to hold baby and play with baby and teach baby everything. She will randomly come up to me and kiss my belly and talk to baby. She calls it "my baby" or "our baby". The last of her friends to have a younger sibling, shes so excited to finally get to be a big sister. Im not sure how this will play out when baby is actually here, but I have a feeling shell be very helpful and the jealousy will be minimal. My younger brother and I are five years apart and I was a helpful big sister who adored the baby and was never jealous. Lucia and baby will be four years apart and although her temperament is much different than mine, I think the reaction will be much the same.
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We got this gorgeous family photo taken at Davids cousins wedding.
First professional photo as a family of four! |
best part of pregnancy so far: Ive loved holding my belly in the last few weeks. Ive finally gotten big enough that I have a round, very pregnant belly and I think its beautiful and pretty amazing. Just looking in the mirror and rubbing my belly has been such a blessing. I dont know why, but it seems so strange to actually be this physically, visibly pregnant. I think there was a part of me that thought I would never get to this point and that kind of didnt believe I was actually pregnant with a real, live baby (despite the ultrasounds and really obvious symptoms). But now that I can
see it, its starting to feel very concrete. I catch myself smiling when I see my belly in the mirror.
As for the best specific
moment, yesterday, we went to a Rockies (baseball for those non-sporties out there) game yesterday and toward the end, a woman came up to me on her way out and said, "I just had to tell you youre a gorgeous pregnant woman. If I ever get pregnant, I hope I look like you - all belly!" And then she told me how beautiful Lucia was. Yep, that was a winner, especially since I was greasy with sunscreen and had be sweating profusely the whole game so basically felt like a hot, slimy whale. But apparently a gorgeous one.
prayer request: One of babys kidneys was larger than normal on my 20 week ultrasound, so I have a follow up ultrasound next month. The doctor made it sound like this issue is fairly common and often resolves itself, but even if it doesnt it is not a major problem. Im not particularly worried, but prayers would be appreciated. Ive entrusted baby and this pregnancy to the intercession of Blesseds Zelie and Louis Martin (the soon-to-be canonized parents of St. Therese of Lisieux). Also, prayers for the financial/insurance concerns of this pregnancy would be appreciated as well. Thank you!
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